An Open Letter to Brooke Poston – This Modest Mom
I have edited this post many times as I ponder what has happened to a fellow mom blogger. I promise, this is my last edit. (Hands off the publish button, lady).
Initially I wanted to write about moms self labeling. But it morphed very quickly into something else, an open letter to that very mom blogger I was talking about.
Recently, this other mom blogger, Brooke Poston – This Modest Mom , posted that she was canceling her family’s Disney trip due to the LGBT agenda at Disney. She defines herself modest and Christian. She goes on to say she doesn’t shun people in her follow up post, but in her initial post she lays out how she goes out of her way to avoid LGBTQ people quite specifically,
If we’re being honest, there’s a lot of things we’ve stopped doing. We don’t even bother with rated R movies, because I hate the language, and the near pornographic scenes. I’ve walked out, or turned off, many PG-13 movies for the same reason. I refuse to use the regular bathrooms at Target and if the family room has a line, then we leave. Some of the most popular shows (Scandal, How to Get Away with Murder, Quantico, This Is Us, Greys Anatomy, The Good Wife, etc.), most of which air on ABC, a Disney owned network, I quit watching them all when they revealed exclusively LGBT characters. We cut our cable years ago because we refused to pay for things we weren’t able to watch. Even the commercials make me cringe. Which is what brings me to my next point.”
Unfortunately for Brooke, when she called herself Christian and modest, she angered people who feel judged, condemned, and targeted by the “The Big C’s”, the Church, Christians and Conservatives. When she makes comments in her blog that express absolute disbelief that a person, a franchise, a culture, a corporation or a business would dare to acknowledge the very existence of this group of people – it causes the reader to consider closed minded bigotry. I do.
This very section below – this part she wrote – is the concentrated message of her posts. If no other words were on the page, this very statement defines her way of thinking, and I find it sad that she’s projecting her fears of things that haven’t happened yet into the real world and asking others to punish (by way of signing petitions that aim to ignore, erase and debase an entire section of our human population) others based on their sexuality.
Director Ron Clements said, “It seems like the possibilities are pretty open at this point.” WHAT?!
Disney isn’t just aiming their efforts towards parent’s of Disney-aged children anymore. They are pointing a desperate finger at the innocence of our youth. Disney is targeting our youth like they’re aiming at big game on a corporate hunting trip. They are banking on corrupting the purity of a child’s mind for the 1%. They are no longer making watching a choice, but by forcing it to become mainstream, Disney is telling the conservative family, the Christian public, that they’re views hold no worth.” [emphasis added by justmom.me]
Where to begin? She sounds angry. Angry that Disney dare to air something she and her fellow Christians take offense to. I’m certainly not in that crowd. My initial reaction was to eye-roll and say, well, other families don’t need to be subjected to the vitriol she would more than likely spout if she saw something she disagreed with. However I realized this would be unfair without actually reading her site, learning more about her, and then making an assessment – simply being as she and I are about as different as we can get in terms of world viewpoints. I did, and even though we are worlds apart on viewpoints, strangely (or predictably if you believe all humans to be inherently striving for the same end, love and acceptance), we agree on being committed to family, love, community outreach, and protecting our children. It’s what we protect our children FROM that seems to be the issue. So, my letter to Brooke follows:
No one can tell you what to believe, absolutely. I believe that I am a Christian as well, I love a Jewish man, and my children will be free to worship (or not) as they see fit.
But Brooke – your very blog title, your description, and your blog post are all in contradiction with each other. Your “warning” on your post “Disney’s LGBT agenda forced me to cancel our Disney World Vacation- Boycott Disney” doesn’t match what you say in your actual blog.
“WARNING: This post is based upon my very conservative opinion and my own Christian, Bible based, beliefs. I may not agree with your choices, but I love all people, no matter your race, ethnicity, political beliefs and/or lifestyle choices.”
Then you say you avoid everything LGBTQ+ – all of it. Movies. Locations. People. Why? Are you going to cover your children’s eyes when a gay man walks by? How will you know? And again, I ask, why?
I have read your blog, different random posts. I think you are a great mother, I’m assuming a great wife, a wonderful friend and a more than likely an awesome human being. I know you are trying to protect your children. But from what? I look at my own children and see no “corruption” of their innocence when their gay uncle comes over for dinner with his boyfriend. Indeed, it is the definition of innocence when my 4 year old climbs in the lap of her uncle and asks to paint his fingernails the same color as a ‘lociraptor (velociraptor). She sees no sexuality. She sees no need to base her affection on whether a person has a penis or vagina. All she knows is this person is safe, loves her, and she loves this person back.
My son is straight, 14, and a sweet soul (when his teenager jerkiness isn’t rearing up). He has spent most of his 14 years on this earth around gay people and it hasn’t changed his sexuality and it won’t. I promise it’s not contagious. Nor do any of my fellow gay friends talk about sexual relations in front of my children. Who does that? That’s just gross and ew.
My oldest is 19. She is a good kid, in college, pretty conservative by mine and college standards but yet grew up in the same house as I mentioned above. Both she and my son were christened in the Catholic church. Are they “corrupt”? Is my 4 year old? Is her understanding of love and acceptance, her ideas of forgiveness and inclusion, are those morals at risk because I welcome my brother and his boyfriend, my two best friends and one of their same sex spouses into our home often?
I have asked this of my fellow Christians often. I firmly believe that the way to convince someone is by being open, welcoming, loving and nurturing – none of the things you’re being. You are being exclusionary, judgmental, bigoted, closed minded and furthering hatred.
I know you won’t agree, and it saddens me that you think this is the way Jesus would have walked through the world. Because, much like the religious leaders of His time – most Christians today are only concerned with turning a back and throwing stones, casting judgments and denouncing other humans. Always better than – and when you look down your nose at someone because they think differently, you’ll never ever convince them that you are right about anything.
As a matter of fact, your behavior will only damage the message you promised to spread – love, acceptance, forgiveness.
The people commenting, the trolls, and the internet jerks who are attacking your children are the worst. They shouldn’t do that. You know it, I know it and they know it, deep down. But this IS the internet. Just like the Field of Dreams message, if you put it out there, the trolls will come. This is the risk we take as mom bloggers, you more so than me, since I don’t really have a following that much. But I do take that risk as well.
Boycott Disney if you must. I personally love many gay people, a couple trans folks, and even people who *gasp* don’t believe in God or the same one I believe in. Because at the end of the day, we are absolutely only responsible for our own salvation, souls, karma, or cosmic energy.
My absolutely serious questions to you are – what do you think Jesus would have done? Would he really avoid all of these people? Do you think homosexuality didn’t exist then and that Jesus didn’t know any homos? Think he didn’t know anyone that was confused? These situations have been historically noted – we are not the first people to acknowledge it, nor did we “invent” it. So why do you think God made these people broken, or that your opinion of them matters to them or God? Because it doesn’t.
Your backlash should have been an insight into that, you reaped what you sowed, and I’m sorry the internet has jumped on you. You don’t seem like a bad person, and indeed, seem like a good mother. I ask those who attack you to stop, but – Brooke – I don’t matter. Because I’m not attacking anyone. You did. Maybe you should open your heart a little more, ask forgiveness of those you demeaned and forgive yourself. That would be a good place to start.